Tell the truth about God
The Christian man must speak truth about God and His Word. Paul instructed Timothy to set an example in speech (1 Timothy 4:12), emphasising teaching and public reading of Scripture (1 Timothy 4:11–13). Every man should strive to know and teach God’s truth. Knowing God deeply is crucial, meditating on His law (Psalm 1:1–2). Christian men should be prepared to defend their faith (1 Peter 3:15), armed with “the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God” (Ephesians 6:17).

Tell the truth about everything
Christian men are honest, with unquestionable integrity, committed to truth. They don’t fabricate or repeat lies, taking responsibility for their actions (Ephesians 4:25, Colossians 3:9). Honesty may be costly, but it honours Christ and loves others. Godly men prioritise truth over self-preservation, understanding that peace built on deceit is ultimately treacherous. They experience the lasting peace of integrity.

Build others up with your words
A key test for speech is whether it builds others up. Speaking truth in love allows the body of Christ to grow (Ephesians 4:15–16). This involves more than avoiding negativity; it requires actively encouraging others, building their faith and joy (Philippians 1:25). Building language is constructive and hopeful, even if it’s not always comfortable. Men should strive to excel in building up the church, especially through their words (1 Corinthians 14:12).

Avoid all foolishness and filthiness
Failing to build others up with words can lead to tearing them down, discouraging and corrupting them. Ephesians 4:29 urges speaking only what builds up and gives grace. Corrupting language includes anger, malice, slander, and obscene talk (Colossians 3:8), as well as filthiness, foolish talk, and crude joking (Ephesians 5:4). Social media often normalises these sins. Setting a godly example in speech requires refusing to indulge in words that harm others.

Be unusually thankful
To set a godly example, replace corrupt speech with thanksgiving (Ephesians 5:4). Thank God for everything, recognising all gifts come from Him (James 1:17). Be unusually thankful (Colossians 2:7). Be filled with the Spirit, speaking in psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs, giving thanks always (Ephesians 5:18–20). Avoid grumbling and disputing to be blameless and shine as lights (Philippians 2:14–15). Strive for radiant thankfulness.

Correct with gentleness
Men of God build others up through both affirmation and correction. They address sins and errors to prevent devastating consequences. Correction is essential, but must be done with gentleness (Galatians 6:1, 2 Timothy 2:24–25). Instead of harshness, they choose gentleness, even when wronged. They use their strength to restrain themselves in love, knowing a gentle tongue is life-giving (Proverbs 15:4).

Leave behind boasting in Self
Men of God, captured by grace, avoid self-boasting (1 Corinthians 1:28–29). They build others up and are quiet about their own abilities, achievements, and ministry. They live by the proverb, “Let another praise you, and not your own mouth” (Proverbs 27:2). Social media often encourages self-promotion, but men of God resist this. They boast in the Lord (1 Corinthians 1:31, 2 Corinthians 10:17), choosing humble, faithful, and joy-filled speech.